Hi Carolyn: My friends boyfriend passed away last week and the funeral is tomorrow. My friend told her roommate that she didnt want her friends going to the funeral if they were going just for her, and Im torn on whether to go. Although I liked her boyfriend and considered him a friend, my connection to him was through her and I would mostly go to support her.
I want to respect her wishes, but Im also worried that not going is the wrong thing, and that she will look back and be upset I wasnt there. The service is being held six hours away from me, so Ive got to figure it out today. To Go or Not to Go
Answer: Maybe its just me, but I find her wishes almost impossible to parse. Anyone knowing both her and her boyfriend is supposed to choose?
This suggestion works around it completely: Go if its important to you to go.
Im sorry for your loss.
Re: Funeral: One of the best decisions Ive ever made in my life was driving six hours to give a friend a hug at the funeral of her sister, who I had only met a handful of times. I have never once regretted going to a funeral, and I have been extremely touched by the people who made the time for my loved ones funerals. Never Regretted
Thanks for this. I agree. I have missed some myself and those are my regrets.
