At first glance, I didn’t think today’s conference on depression and teenage suicide would pertain to me.
But after a discussion with Amber Jewell, a social worker with Le Roy/Gridley schools, I realized that our interactions with each other can make a big difference not only in how our day goes, but also in times of trouble.
According to Jewell, every smile of acknowledgement, every “hello” in the morning, every word of appreciation that we receive are “pebbles” that we carry in our pockets to remind us we have value.
Life is tough; so are you link
For children, especially, such actions help determine how they view the world: whether it is safe and friendly, or a place where they must be on their guard.
Because I have the privilege of babysitting my 1½-year-old granddaughter on a frequent basis, Jewell’s words left a strong impression.
According to researchers, nearly 80% of brain development occurs by age 3. So every engagement I have with little Sofia is a building block to how she develops as an adult.
Oh my, what a responsibility!
That knowledge also wants me to make sure I’m being purposeful in how I engage with her, making sure it includes oodles of hugs, words of encouragement, silly songs and reading book after book. Not only do I want to be her refuge, but also an example of strength.
JEWELL’S ADVICE crosses generations and circumstances.
A little soul-searching got me wondering: Am I a good friend, wife, mom?
Do I let Register employees know they’re appreciated? Is this a supportive work environment?
What could be a guilt trip turned into an exercise of realizing how every interaction is an opportunity to build relationships, making life more full and rewarding.
In visiting with Sharla Miller last week, she remarked how since her son Matt’s suicide, she now parents differently. Now when a child complains, she takes them seriously to discern whether it’s a cry for help or just griping.
“It’s important to give people credit for their feelings,” Miller said.
