Kristen Dreher lost a friend to domestic violence earlier this year. They had grown up together, went to school functions and shared secrets.
That is, all but one secret. Her friend Laura Coltrane was a victim of domestic violence.
“I guess you could call me old-fashioned, but I grew up believing no one ever hit a woman or a child,” Dreher said. “If I had only known about Laura’s situation, maybe I could have helped her.”
Dreher, a stylist at Bella Donna Salon at 401 N. Jefferson, enlisted the help of Joelle Shallah, Bella Donna owner, to help raise awareness about domestic violence through a fundraiser in Coltrane’s name.
Through the generosity of area merchants, Dreher has assembled two baskets with merchandise and gift certificates totaling more than $500 each which will be given away on Nov. 1 at Bella Donna. The proceeds from the baskets will be given to Hope Unlimited.
October is designated as Domestic Violence Awareness month.
Domestic violence can be physical, verbal or emotional. It is when one partner tries to dominate or control the other person, said Lisa Chauncey, sexual assault advocate at Hope Unlimited.
Purple ribbons have become associated with the effort. The ribbons were adopted several years ago following the death of Lisa Bianco in Indiana. Bianco, after years of living in fear of her husband, escaped its grip when her husband was sent to jail. After being released from prison her husband immediately sought out Bianco and killed her.
“We want people to know it is OK to seek out a better life for themselves and their family. It takes an enormous about of courage to leave their home and live in fear of retribution, but it is important to leave and seek help,” Chauncey said. “We are hoping people in Allen County will wear purple ribbons this month to bring awareness of domestic violence.”
People driving by Bella Donna this month will also notice a door in its parking lot.
It is a survivor’s door, Chauncey said. One side of the door is covered with expressions from people who are experiencing domestic violence such as being told they are worthless and where else could they go. The other side tells the victim they are safe and loved. The door is also signed by
people who have escaped to a better life after leaving abusive homes.
“We usually have a suitcase sitting beside the survivors’ door. Once a person opens the door to a better life they take what few possessions they have with them,” Chauncey said.
Throughout the month tickets for the gift baskets may be purchased for $1 each or six for $5. Purple ribbons and bracelets are $1 each, purple hair extensions are four for $10 at Bella Donna.
“We hope to raise several thousand dollars to give to Hope Unlimited in memory of Laura,” Dreher said.
