Dear Carolyn: I have a full-time job and try to do extra freelance artwork as I can, usually after work. My wife is a stay-at-home grandma watching the grandkids, the 10-month-old all day and the 3-year-old when she gets out of school. Im sure that is not easy.
But she will give me a call about something else and always throw in, Whats your ETA? If I say I need to get something done, shell counter with something like, well Ive had a stressful day, these kids … then I feel guilty and go home.
Ive got nothing to hide, theres no other woman, Im not stopping for beers on the way home, but Id be a little more Bohemian. Drawing a Blank
Dear Blank: Im sure you would like to be, understandably.
As would I.
As would, Im guessing, your wife. Who is on her second go-round at one of the most exhausting jobs there is.
Are you sure that is not easy, by the way, because you shared the workload with her equally of raising your kid(s), or are you at least somewhat projecting?
Maybe your wife volunteered for this against your wishes. Maybe you both failed to account for the variable of being older. Regardless, the fact of your marriage has you in this together. Dont prioritize your concern over hers: You both want some freedom. And deserve some. Bring it up when youre ready to see that.
